 Health & Nutrition
Thoughts on
Aging
From Problems to Facts of Life - November 3, 2011
(1 minutes: 40 seconds)
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Audio/Video Script:
Dr. LaVona Traywick
Assistant Professor - Gerontology
[Announcer] Welcome to Thoughts on Aging with Dr. LaVona Traywick,
Assistant Professor of Gerontology with the University of Arkansas Division of
Agriculture Cooperative Extension Service.
[Dr. LaVona Traywick] Susan Page
in her book "Why Talking is not Enough" states that "Many relationship problems
aren't truly 'problems' at all; they are facts of life. If you label something
as a problem, you imply that it has a solution. If you label it a fact of life,
you understand that you simply need to learn to live with it. (p. 57)"
Now when Ms. Page is talking
about living with it, she is not talking about abuse. That is a whole different
issue.
But why I bring up this quote
from her book is that as we age and are in relationships for some length of
time, we may start to find that traits that we once found enduring we now find
as annoying. So we think we can "fix" the newly discovered problem and change
them to act the way we think they should. Well, it turns out that 70% of what
we don’t like about our partner will never change. We need to accept our
partners as they are and enjoy their strengths. We may not be able to change
others, but we can change our outlook from a problem to a fact of life.
[Announcer] Thank you for listening to Thoughts on Aging with Dr. LaVona
Traywick. To learn more about this and other topics, contact your local county
Cooperative
Extension Service office.
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